More than Words: The Meaning Behind the ASL I-Love-You Sign
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Carolyna Otero, Asst. Dir., Social Services, CHC-FL
There are many ways to say 'I love you.' It can be spoken through affectionate words, warm hugs, shared chocolates, or thoughtful gestures. Some expressions are blaring and obvious; others are quiet but deeply profound.
One of the most powerful is ILY—a message that can be shared silently, privately, even across a room or from the opposite side of a building, without anyone else noticing.
So, What is ILY?
ILY is a handshape formed from American Sign Language (ASL). It combines three letters from the ASL alphabet: I, L, and Y, which together represent “I love you.” When signed as one gesture, it becomes a complete expression—short, quick, and incredibly meaningful.
Many people assume ILY is reserved only for romantic relationships, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. ILY is for anyone with whom you share a connection: friends, family members, acquaintances, strangers, and yes, significant others. Its power lies in its inclusivity.
ILY Builds Connection
In the United States, ILY is a deeply rooted cultural symbol within the Deaf community. It represents Deaf identity, pride, and visibility. ASL is a visual language, and the ILY handshape carries impact beyond spoken words. It communicates support, solidarity, warmth, belonging, and community. Most importantly, it builds connection.
Imagine locking eyes with someone across the street or through a window and signing ILY—no sound, no explanation needed, yet the meaning lands fully. Or imagine passing someone in the hallway, exchanging a brief glance, and signing ILY as you go. In those moments, the message is clear and deeply felt.
Love Doesn't Need to be Spoken
ILY reminds us that love doesn’t always need to be spoken. It can be seen, shared, and understood in silence.
To everyone reading this, cherish the people in your life—and I leave you with this: ILY.
About the Author
Carolyna Otero is an Assistant Director of Social Services in CHC-FL. She started working at the Center for Hearing and Communication (CHC) in 2019. Carolyna is also an American Sign Language instructor. Carolyna graduated with a Bachelor of Applied Science degree in Supervision and Management in 2016 along with certifications of Human Resource, and Small Business Management and Associate of Arts degree in Business Administration in 2015. at abrogno@chchearing.org.